This weekend, as a family we made a big decision. A decision that will affect the rest of our lives, a decision that required a lot of prayer, a decision that was difficult and draining, a decision that we would have rather God just make for us. I supposed in His own way, He did.
Last night as I sat on this beat up couch with my husband I read Joyce Meyer's book "The Secret To True Happiness". If you haven't read it, I can tell you from the first four chapters, you should. I am not a big underliner for the lack of a better term. I don't highlight as I read or take notes and the only journal I have is this one that I let everyone read. But as I was reading I asked Doc to borrow his pen and I underlined the following:
"Much of life takes place when no one is looking; and God works in our lives during the ordinary times".
Duh. Right? I mean daily we strive for EXTRAordinary yet God is working in the ordinary. So why are we working so hard? Missing so much of today trying to get to tomorrow. Not far down page 6 of this book I again used the pen and underlined the following;
"True life is really not found in arriving at a destination; it is found in the journey".
Thank you Joyce! If there was anything that I needed to hear on Sunday March 27, 2011 after 15 days of talking and discussing and making BIG choices it was that! I took a deep breath. I looked at the man opposite me and smile at his sweet bald head and those giant dimples. I giggled inside at my dirty kitchen and thought to myself "who cares Melanie? I mean really no one in the entire world knows that your kitchen is dirty but you and him and he doesn't care!"
Doc and I want to do EXTRAordinary things, we want to live EXTRAordinary lives, we spends days and weeks and months talking about how to get out of the ordinary and into the EXTRAordinary! Why? I guess because we think we will be happier? Honestly, I don't know why. I would say society pushes us to that but honestly, I think that is a LAME excuse for anything so I am not going to use it here.
As I sat last night reading I thought about the things that make us happy, I mean really happy. Our girls playing, our family visiting, laughing with each other, time on the couch with hot chocolate and the food channel, swing sets and barbecues and fried banana pies. These are the things that make us happy, make us feel good, that light up our lives. And you know what? We have all of those things. Everyday. So we should wake up skipping and dive into the bed at night giggling.
Solomon (the wisest man EVER) tells us in Ecclesiastes chapter 5: "Behold, what I have seen to be good and fitting is for one to eat and drink and to find enjoyment in all the labor in which he labors under the sun all the days which God gives him".
Translated from The Message: After looking at the way things are on this earth, here's what I've decided is the best way to live: Take care of yourself, have a good time, and make the most of whatever job you have for as long as God gives you life. And that's about it.
And that is about it folks. That is all. Enjoy it. Whatever it is. I get it. I didn't get a vacation and you did. I have friends with more money, less debt, skinnier, heavier, more kids, no kids, great husband, no husbands, big houses, nice cars, no car, great parents, no parents, bad parents. I have friends that from the outside seem to have it made, but on the inside they fight disease and addiction and have marriages falling apart. My point? No one lives the same life and no one's life is perfect. Some got dealt a better hand and some would trade with you in a heartbeat. But what the bible, the Lord, our SAVIOR tells us to do is to enjoy OUR lives!! The one that we have, because that is the only one we get and it is a waste of time wishing for someone else's, it is just not going to happen.
So that is what I plan to do. I plan enjoy my life, today, right now. I don't want yours and even if I did I can't have it. What I have are two beautiful little girls and a man that's day can be made with a fried banana pie. It takes me 15 minutes to make a fried banana pie. So if you ask me, I ought to wake up skipping and go to bed giggling.
Love and Blessings!